For every person who loves and shares their life with a dog, the dreaded and inevitable day will come. The day when you question whether or not to intervene in how and when your dog's life will end.
The first time for me was a few years ago, when I had to make the decision for my dog, Rex. One day, he was his normal, happy self - a little stiff in the backend as 11 year old German Shepherds can be, but otherwise healthy. The next day, he was lethargic, not interested in food or water, and barely acknowledging me with a tail wag when I approached him.
At first, I thought maybe he had eaten something that didn't agree with him. But the next day, as he lay in the same spot, not eating or drinking, I began to suspect. And when he continued lying in that spot and soiling himself; I knew. Rex was leaving us and the only thing I could do was make him as comfortable as possible and watch over him to ensure his passing wasn't painful.
If I knew then what I know now about the physical manifestations of death, I would have saved myself months of second-guessing and guilt about how I ultimately decided to end his life.
To say Rex's sudden deterioration was a surprise would be an understatement. If I knew then what I know now about the physical manifestations of death, I would have saved myself months of second-guessing and guilt about how I ultimately decided to end his life. So that you are spared the same anguish, I would like to share with you what I learned.
The signs dogs give us when it's time to say goodbye.
1.) Prolonged Lethargy/Disinterest
This is the most common sign that the dying process has begun. Lying in one spot (oftentimes a quiet spot where they don't usually lay), not interested in toys or walks, barely acknowledging family members -- in other words, just not acting like themselves. Sometimes dogs can become lethargic due to other health issues, but if you have ruled this out and it lasts more than a day, it may be a sign your dog is ready to say goodbye.
2.) Stops Eating/Drinking
You know something is wrong when your dog refuses food. If your dog is at this point, you can offer him the tastiest treat imaginable and he will not eat it. He will also stop drinking water. This is due to the beginning of his organs shutting down. He no longer has the sensation of hunger or thirst. You can try to keep him hydrated by giving him water in a dropper or turkey baster, but if he won't swallow it, there's not a whole lot you can do. Again, just because a dog stops eating and drinking for a day or so, doesn't mean he is dying, so rule out other health issues first.
3.) Loss of Coordination
If your dog does get up and move around, he may be very wobbly or act disoriented. He may shake or convulse while lying down. If you can, keep him in a confined, quiet, comfortable area and remove anything he may bump into or knock over.
A dying dog will lie in one spot and not even move to relieve himself. He may have diarrhea. This is another signal that your dog's internal organs are shutting down. It is important during this time that you keep him and his bed clean and dry.
5.) Labored Breathing
Towards the end, many dogs display difficulty breathing. Their breathing could be uneven, with lengthy gaps between inhaling and exhaling.
6.) Seeking Comfort
Some dogs will know their time is approaching, and will look to their people for comfort. Stay with your dog and reassure him with gentle stroking and a soft voice. As difficult as it is, try not to break down emotionally during this time. Do everything you can to hold it together so as not to distress your dog.
Not all dogs will exhibit all of these signs, and some dogs will exhibit even more. While preparing to say goodbye, you are going to have to decide if your dog needs your help crossing over. If you have a significant other who shares caretaking responsibilities, you are going to have to discuss it and come to an agreement.
When Rex was exhibiting signs 1-4 above, my husband and I initially disagreed on what steps we should take. He was in grief and denial and wanted to take Rex to the vet to have everything possible done to save him. I knew in my gut that it wouldn't make a difference. I was practically hysterical at the thought of carting Rex to the vet to be put through a battery of uncomfortable procedures only to prolong his life for what I knew would only be a matter of days. I was adamant that he stay at home, with us, so we could comfort him until he died.
Unfortunately, his passing was not as easy as him just falling asleep one night and not waking again. As much as I wanted him to stay with us, the point came when I knew we had to intervene. He was deteriorating, and I could see in his eyes that he wasn't really there anymore. I had done some research online by that point and had chosen a vet who would make house calls. I set an appointment for the next day.
That day we spent time saying goodbye, and were as ready as we could be when the vet arrived. The vet injected Rex with a sedative tranquilizer, which helped him relax. He was not in any pain. Then, when we were ready, the vet injected Rex with an overdose of barbiturate, which stops the heart and breathing muscles.
Because Rex had not been drinking water, and had diarrhea, he was too dehydrated to produce a viable vein, so the vet had to inject the drug into his stomach. This is not the most efficient delivery, and Rex was a big dog, so unfortunately the first dose of barbiturate did not produce death and a second dose was needed a few minutes later. Rex was sedated and not suffering, but this was quite upsetting to us, as you can imagine. I only mention this because nothing ever works perfectly, even when you need it to the most, but it can still be ok. Rex was with us and not in pain, so it was ok. He passed on very shortly after the second dose.
You should know that during the moment of, and even after death, a dog can vocalize, twitch, and possibly eliminate. This is all perfectly natural as the muscles and organs of the body release for the last time. Rex jerked a few times and then let out a big breath, and then his body lost all tension and he was free.
Our house call vet provided the extra service of taking Rex with him and arranging for cremation. He also took an impression of Rex's paw and cast it for us as a memento. I keep the cast in my nightstand and Rex's ashes live in a redwood box that rests on a shelf behind his picture in the living room. Maybe it's weird, but I never wanted to scatter his ashes anywhere - I wanted him to stay with us.
On a pragmatic note, these types of services may need to be financially planned for -- the at-home euthanasia, body transport, cremation, and paw cast ended up costing around $600. It was well worth it for us to have the ability to say goodbye to Rex on our own terms. We were also extremely lucky in our choice of vet. He was caring, patient and sympathetic. He really made us feel like he was there for us and let us set the pace.
I recommend setting aside some time, before your dog is sick or old, and researching services available in your area if you think this is something you'll want to do when the time comes. I did my research online but you can also get referrals from your regular vet.
Remember that as difficult as it is to make this decision for your pet, you need to do what is in his best interest (not yours). If you are having a hard time with this, refer to the Quality of Life Scale to see where your dog's condition falls. If the evidence is there, do the loving, humane thing and help your dog out of his discomfort.
My personal philosophy is this: the reason dogs don't live as long as we do is so we can help more dogs.
My personal philosophy is this: the reason dogs don't live as long as we do is so we can help more dogs. Take your time to do your grieving, but not too much. As devastating as it was (and still is) to lose Rex, the number one thing that brought me comfort was to adopt another dog who needed me. After Rex's passing, I ran across Big Duke's picture on a shelter website and his resemblance to Rex was uncanny. Saying goodbye to Rex allowed me to save Big Duke from a high kill shelter. I felt like it was Rex's way of letting me know that it was time to turn my grief towards something positive. Saying goodbye to Rex allowed me to say hello to Big Duke, and saving a life has helped me to heal.
The Michelson Found Animals Foundation's mission of saving pets and enriching lives is made possible by the generous contributions of Dr. Gary Michelson and Alya Michelson.